Category: General
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Why it doesn’t really matter if you label yourself
The LGBTQ+ community has evolved dramatically over decades and generations, which has ultimately led to bouts of misunderstanding even among those who have identified with the acronym for a long period of time. It’s inherent for us to feel the need to describe ourselves with a specific identity. Our brain resorts to using labels to…
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Trauma & Asexuality: Does sexual abuse make you asexual?
By Tas Kronby, TasThoughts LLC *TRIGGER WARNING in this brief: content about sexual abuse* No. Abuse can cause confusion but it is not a direct cause of being ace or any other sexual orientation. Definitions of sexuality Let us first start off by defining ace. The term ace is used to describe someone on the asexuality spectrum. asexuality…
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A brief history of drag kings and queens
International Drag Day is this Saturday, July 16, and we’re celebrating by taking a trip down memory lane. The act of males dressing and performing in female attire dates back to Ancient Greece, in burlesque (circa 1600s) and during Shakespearian times. “There’s always been someone crossdressing for work,” said Frank DeCaro, author of Drag: Combing…
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MOGAI FYI: An introduction to identities outside LGBTQ+
Editor’s note: The following article is purely informational and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the folks at Come (Out) as You Are. MOGAI may be among the most controversial things the LGBTQ+ community has been facing for years (among other things, of course). However, do we have a true understanding of…
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Corporations who financially support anti-LGBTQ+ figures
Corporate rainbow-washing isn’t even funny anymore.
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Why do all pride months matter?
By Tas Kronby, TasThoughts LLC A month out of every year is dedicated to Pride with a goal of changing societal stigmas and allowing recognition for the accomplishments and impact of marginalized communities. History of pride Individuals identifying as LGBTQ marched down Christopher Street for the first Pride parade on June 28th, 1970. A significant…
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DC-area nonprofit to bring expanded support to LGBTQ+ families
Rainbow Families, a small, grassroots nonprofit has been delivering education, connections and advocacy for LGBTQ families for nearly 35 years in the Washington D.C. metropolitan area. Executive director Darren Vance said over the last three decades, Rainbow Families has consistently offered a six-week education program that teaches prospective parents on the options for LGBTQ+ parenthood,…
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Are autistic people more likely to be asexual?
By Tas Kronby, TasThoughts, LLC The answer is both yes and no. It’s not about sexuality, it’s about the gender diversity in the autistic community that includes sexual orientation. What is Neurodiversity? Neurodiversity refers to variations in social communication, learning, attention, and other brain functions. Neurodiversity describes people who have differences in thinking and have just as…
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Why solidarity in marginalized communities matter
By Tas Kronby, TasThoughts LLC “Solidarity is a voluntary collective action by different people based on finding objectives and solutions. Solidarity work happens when you show up to help and support others experiencing some form of harm by centering their leadership, decisions, needs, requests and ideas.” GLSEN Solidarity helps eliminate the feeling of inequality. If you…
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Rainbow Cops: A look into what we can do better to serve our LGBTQIA+ Community
This may be no surprise to any of you, but I work for a police agency and serve an absolutely amazing community. If you didn’t know that, well… surprise! The one thing that’s always had me scratching my head was “why don’t we have LGBTQ Liaison Officers within our police departments as well as pieces…
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5 questions to ask an LGBTQ person to wholly understand and respect them
What are your pronouns? This is a no-brainer and should be common practice at this point. But it’s OK if you still need practice! Is there a name you’d prefer me to use? Please be sure to ask without using someone’s deadname. What’s something about the community you want others to know about? Whether it…
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Exploring the roots and importance of National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day
Though World AIDS Day is in December, another national recognition arose in 1999 to show support for Black folks who have to work their lives around HIV/AIDS. According to HIV.gov, National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NBHAAD) “ is an opportunity to increase HIV education, testing, community involvement and treatment among Black communities. The first National…
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A comprehensive analysis to understanding bullying and cyberbullying of LGBTQ youth compared to their heterosexual peers
We’ve seen it here in Wisconsin: The risk for LGBTQ youth to be bullied online and in person is significantly increasing. But how does it compare to their heterosexual counterparts? This analysis from 2020 is derived from a Spanish study published by Scipedia entitled “Bullying and cyberbullying in LGBT adolescents: Prevalence and effects on mental…
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Happy New Year from Come (Out) as You Are!
We wish you all a beautiful and prosperous 2022, and to hopefully stop pondering 2020 still. Here are some notable dates for LGBTQ folks this year: Dates courtesy of this site, this one and this one. Calendar art courtesy of @gardeniaresilia on Twitter.
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Join the chat: Should we still be using “guys”?
Some thought this discussion had already been put to bed. Others are still making cases for either side. Should we as a greater society be using the term “guys” to refer to a group of people regardless of gender identity? For example, Jeff Probst in the 41st season of Survivor asked contestants if he should…
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Hot take: Normalize asking people’s pronouns all the time
As the holidays are coming up, sometimes new people are brought around as a significant other, “roommate” or “friend,” if you know what I’m saying. Or perhaps a family member significantly changed their appearance from the last time you saw them. Let’s review why it should be normalized to ask someone’s pronouns. We’ve discussed it…
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Exploring intersectionality: You never know what the doctor might say
By Tas Kronby | Website Life is complicated for everyone but intersectionality adds unique complications. Neurotypical, cisgender and heterosexual people do not understand or experience the barriers that neurodivergent individuals face when you part of the LGBTQIA+ community. People assume coming out only applies to gender and sexuality. However, not only do you come out…
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Clever and funny ways to respond to your phobic family members this Thanksgiving
Nothing. Do not interact. And if you can’t avoid them, that’s OK! Sit at the kids’ table. They’re way cooler anyway.
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Holiday update
Hi folks! For those of you who celebrate, a happy early Thanksgiving. And to those who don’t, enjoy your long weekend if you get one. That said, due to some personal things between Kaitlyn and Robyn and being a little burnt out following our Coming (Out) week celebration, we’ve decided to take a small break…
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